Edgar’s Supportive Family: His Greatest Treasure in Life
Creating a supportive family make life happier and fuller
A supportive family can be the best gift to any man and woman. On days when it’s hard to get up and fight, your family will be there to give you comfort and strength to continue living. They will give you the conditional love and support you need. That was how Edgar felt with Judy—the best, most supportive wife any man could ask for.
Edgar was working as a vocational consultant to the superintendent in Jasper, Missouri, when he first met Judy, who was a business instructor at the same school. The attraction was immediate. Edgar recalls their first meeting as follows:
I was startled at first but as our eyes met we spontaneously began a conversation. Can’t remember what was said but I do remember a reluctance to leave her presence. I did remember her name was Judy Collins and she was the business instructor. As fate would have it my office at Jasper was adjoining Judy’s room with a passage door between.
Judy was friendly and engaging. They got along well and had a lot to talk about. She and Edgar would often find themselves talking for long about different topics. At first, they would mostly talk about their job, public school education, business education, and Judy’s teaching assignment. But later on, as they got to know more about each other, their conversations began to approach more personal topics—their families, hopes, and dreams.
Edgar and Judy both had a taste for tea. Whenever Edgar visited Judy in her office, she would brew hot tea for the both of them. They would often converse briefly or sit in silence, enjoying their tea. In those moments, their mutual attraction grew stronger. Despite this, they maintained a strictly platonic relationship, but they continued to be supportive of each other.
There was a 26-year-gap between them, and they were both consummate professionals. Edgar was still married to his first wife, Marjorie. They both understood that at that moment, they could not have more.
After years of fighting and unhappiness, Edgar and Marjorie’s life together came to an end on August 1, 1974. They divorced, and Marjorie took everything they owned. Edgar, sad and vulnerable, gravitated toward Judy’s comforting and supportive company.
Before long, Edgar and Judy were married. The following years were some of the best years of their lives. Their moments together were exciting, busy, interesting, and very enriching. Despite knowing her intimately, Judy remained an enigma to Edgar. She was driven to advance in her education and career yet she never lacked in being a supportive spouse. She worked hard to deserve leadership roles in schools and community, but she never wanted any of them. She could be vicious and very loving. She was extremely organized but would also often lose track of things. She was assertive and decisive but also passive. To Edgar, she was a study in contradiction—the greatest enigma in his life.
When Judy came into Edgar’s life, he also welcomed another family member—Judy’s 6-year-old son, Brandon. Edgar talks about the challenge of being a father to his stepson:
At the time of my marriage to Judy another challenge to my life was presented in the form of Judy’s six year old son, my stepson. Brandon at first showed some signs of resentment regarding my intrusion into his established family. One of his cute ways of expressing his displeasure was to pinch me real hard on my leg when seated closely. He soon seemed to accept me and I felt we related very well. I realized Judy and Brandon might be resentful if I became the disciplinarian so I tried to avoid any direct matters of discipline. Otherwise I felt Brandon and I had a reasonable father-son relationship. He called me Dad.
As he grew up, Brandon was an interesting child and teenager. Edgar could see that his stepson was genuinely intelligent and personable, but his son did not see the importance of a high GPA. Brandon was also a good athlete. He always had summer jobs and made good money which slipped through his hands like quicksilver.
There were behavioral problems at school and within the community but somehow his escapades didn’t attract serious attention. Brandon was a very complicated young fellow and could be the subject of a book such as the classic story written about Tom Sawyer and Huck Finn. But despite the trouble they had, he was Edgar’s son as much as Edgar was his father.
Before he left this life, Edgar had gained much joy and contentment with Judy and Brandon. They became his family. And like every supportive family, they encouraged him to grow, to be happy, and to live to the fullest.
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